I remember it like yesterday, Phillip sat me down in his office and had a talk with me about always doing what you say and being a man of your word. Most of the things I learned from him were from me merely observing and taking notes of his actions, but this lesson probably sticks out to me so much because he had such a serious conversation with me about the topic. Now, I know what you are probably thinking, “well duh you should do what you say and follow through.” Well guess what, it may be a simple thing but more and more people are becoming terrible at following their words with their actions. Not being able to follow through causes people to not trust you, it makes you look like a selfish liar and eventually will ruin your relationships with others even the important ones.
I wrote down his exact words, “Son, if you want to be successful in your relationships in life do what you say you are going to do, otherwise just don’t say anything at all.” This struck me at the time because I realized that my actions didn’t follow through with my words. When I was younger I was fortunate enough to have many friends and they would all ask me to hang out quite often. When I couldn’t or plain didn’t want to I would tell them to their face that I wanted to but then later on cancel on them, usually giving them a fake excuse as to why I couldn’t. Again, this may seem like not a big deal and you are probably thinking most people do this anyways, but it truly is a big deal! Something as small as this leaks into other areas of a person’s life. Following through with your actions will make other people trust you, respect you and feel valued by you. Building these habits are crucial if you want to be satisfied in your relationships.
Not only doing what you say is important for your relationships with other people, but it is important for your self as well. Too many people tell themselves they are going to lose weight this year, or work extra hard to become more financially free, but they end up quitting early or sometimes not even starting! If you give your absolute best and fall short of your goal that is completely okay. You should be satisfied with that effort that you gave and learn from your failures. But if you tell yourself you are going to do something and then half ass it, it simply is a waste of your life. If you can’t follow through with your actions in your own personal life, it is going to be all the more difficult to do so with others. At the end of the day, relationships are what’s most important. Words mean a lot to people, but actions mean even more. So be a man or a woman that does what you are going to say.